BDSM (Bondage, Discipline, Dominance, Submission, Sadism, and Masochism) is a consensual form of erotic - even kinky - sexual play that typically involves one partner taking on a dominant role while the other is more submissive. Practicing people love BDSM for the excitement it brings with thrilling ways of exploring desires, fulfilling fantasies, and pushing boundaries. When done safely and mindfully, BDSM and related sexual activity can actually have certain benefits, like improving your relationships and self-esteem, among others. So, let's dive right in to the world of thinking kink!

Some things to consider beforehand:

• Communication is key. One of the fundamental principles of BDSM is clear and open communication between all parties. Before engaging in any activities, be sure to discuss your boundaries, desires, and limits with your partner(s). This is sometimes referred to as “negotiation,” and while sounding less exciting, it's an important step in ensuring that everyone is on the same page.
• Have safewords. A safeword is a word or signal that immediately indicates that the activity should stop. It should be a word or phrase that is easy to remember and understand, and unlikely to be mistaken for part of the roleplay.
• Consent. Consent is non-negotiable in BDSM. All participants should willingly and enthusiastically consent to the activities. Also, consent can be withdrawn at any time so it's good to continuously communicate and check in with your partner(s) throughout.
• Do your research. It can only help to explore the many “how-to” videos and extensive literature available to become educated on practicing bondage correctly and safely.
• Use quality restraints, and know how to get your partner out of them. Good practices include keeping things like safety scissors and handcuff keys close by. Never tie around the neck, or leave a partner unattended.
  
  

Ok with the foreplay out of the way, it's time to get naughty! Here are a few sexy ways you can get kinky with your partner:

• Impact play. Because who doesn't love a good spanking? Paddling, whipping, and flogging don't necessarily have to hurt, and make a great entry point into BDSM.
• Bondage. Render your lover into complete submission and tantalize 'n' tease! Or, submit to your dominatrix and let them take control. Either way, use safe restraints - rather than ropes or silk ties, opt for soft leather handcuffs, or safe ribbon handcuffs - like in our Realistic Rabbit Deluxe S&M Bondage Set.
• Edging. Also known as "orgasm denial", edging is when you bring yourself or your partner to the brink of an orgasm, then stop just before the orgasm occurs, leading to a more intense and satisfying release once it finally happens. Almost tortuous and always titillating, edging works well with rabbits and sex toys because you can easily click the “off” button just before they get there.
• Roleplay. Whether a one-time occurrence or an ongoing theme, roleplaying is a great way to bring your sexual fantasies to life! In roleplaying, sex partners take on roles that usually involve a power differential, whether a doctor/patient, teacher/student, or a master/slave relationship – the options are boundless. Who says you have to stop playing make-believe when you grow up?
• Sensation Play. A relatively simple way to start off with kink, sensation play is based on the giving or withholding of certain stimuli. This can be as simple as switching off the lights, blindfolding your partner, or using sound-muffling headphones. And likewise, sensation play could also involve things like using ice cubes or candle wax to stimulate your partner, also known as temperature play.
• Sex Toys! Whether it's a dual-stimulating rabbit or a remote-controlled vibe, adult toys are a great way to kink up any sexual encounter. And when you're ready, you could take it a step further by adding in more intensive-type toys, like a flogger (such as the one in our Lay-On Couples' Set), or nipple clamps and butt plugs (like in our Realistic Rabbit Bondage Set). And don't forget our Water-Based Lube!
• Voyeurism & Exhibitionism. Voyeurism is the gaining of sexual pleasure by watching others engage in sex. However, make sure that the party knows you're watching (remember, consent is key—plus otherwise, it's just creepy). Conversely, "exhibitionism" is the act of being watched, gaining pleasure from the knowledge of being observed while engaging in sex. If you like being the center of attention with all eyes on you, it may just be your thing!
  
  

And finally, don't forget the aftercare. Because BDSM can involve a certain level of pain and/or humiliation, it's critical to engage in the proper aftercare, which can be both verbal and non-verbal. This is to ensure that all participants are comfortable, supported, and on the path to recovery both emotionally and physically. Aftercare can involve things such as:

• • Communicating about what partners liked or didn't like, what worked or could have been better, and offering kind words of reassurance.
  • Cuddling and other loving acts of physical intimacy.
  • Treating any injuries sustained during the BDSM session.
  • Bathing together afterwards.
  • Bonding over non-sexual activities, such as watching a movie or playing a game.
    
    

BDSM and bondage can be thrilling and fulfilling when practiced mindfully and with care! Everyone's boundaries and preferences are unique, so respect and understanding are key. And remember, during your titillating thrills and delicious debauchery, put safety first in order to have an enjoyable and consensual experience for everyone!